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Love of All is Love of None

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A man who claims to “love” all women equally is a man incapable of “loving” any particular woman at all—and a man whose “love” no particular woman wants. The same goes for any woman who claims to “love” all men. To love someone is to love him for what sets him apart from others. We want to be loved and valued for what makes us unique. 

And this inherently means that we want others to be seen, to that degree, as inferior because they lack certain qualities we possess—even if this isn’t the conscious focus of our desire. Without the risk that we could fail to demonstrate these qualities and thus become like those others—unworthy of the love we’ve achieved—love loses its substance and becomes something more equivalent to pity; which, unlike love, is something no one ever feels a sense of self-esteem for obtaining.

Unlike those who merely pity us, those who love us become part of our very identity itself. This is precisely because our identity exists in a social context to distinguish us from other groups of people around us, even if it may classify us with others—and those who love us do so because of what distinguishes us from those others. Love is thus inherently tied to identity, at its core.

Oxytocin, known as the “love hormone” or “trust molecule,” is released during hugging, sex, and other forms of intimate physical contact and promotes bonding and a sense of closeness. Studies have discovered that mice which are genetically engineered to be incapable of responding to oxytocin lose the ability to distinguish between mice from their own group and outsiders. Guess what science discovered in 2010? Here’s an interesting study title: “Oxytocin promotes human ethnocentrism. After an injection of oxytocin, participants became less likely to sacrifice the life of an individual in order to save the lives of a group in the classical trolley problem—if and only if that individual was a member of the same race. Yet, participants remained perfectly happy to continue sacrificing the lives of foreigners. As Cracked’s summary of the situation explained: “oxytocin did boost feelings of love; it’s just that those feelings were limited strictly to a person’s own group. And it’s not that it made them hate outsiders. It’s just that if they perceived that the situation was “us vs. them,” well, a stronger feeling of love toward “us” is bad news for “them.”

A more recent study found that boosting oxytocin makes people more willing to lie if doing so would benefit their group. The organizer of the study explained that oxytocin is causing a shift “from self-interest to group-interest.” It turns out things like hugging, sex, and even pregnancy literally help turn us into racists. The authors of these studies conclude that oxytocin—the very biochemical engine of human bonding itself—might not be so great, after all. But the rest of us might not want to jump to conclusions that are, as Nietzsche would put it, so life-negating.

Liberals like to portray nation-states as being based on “arbitrary lines in the sand,” and style themselves as “citizens of the world” rather than citizens of a nation. Why should we arbitrarily restrict our compassion for humanity to people who just so happened to have been born on this particular landmass instead of some other? To ask the question while framing it in these terms is to pre-load the obvious answer: of course we shouldn’t. Why would anyone do that?

In defense of the Brexit vote, Theresa May stated, “if you believe you are a citizen of the world, you are a citizen of nowhere.” But a 2016 survey conducted by GlobeScan found that 43% of the citizens of the United States “strongly” or “somewhat agree” with the statement, “I see myself more as a global citizen than a citizen of my country,” while 56% somewhat or strongly disagreed. (Those numbers are 47% and 52% respectively for the UK, where the Brexit vote took place.)

However, a 2015 study found that ”the more individuals perceive themselves as “citizens of the world,” the less likely they are to contribute to collective public goods and the more likely to hitch a “free ride” on the contributions of other citizens.” This is an excellent demonstration of the core thesis of this essay: love of all is love of none. The “global citizen,” on average, does not donate just as much to his neighbors and then go on to donate more to global charities as well.

He simply loves his neighbor less. And this pretense to “global citizenship” is merely a way to frame his lack of love for his neighbor in self-congratulating terms. Such individuals will have a difficult time facing the fact that to substantively demonstrate any real love or loyalty in the world simply means to deprive others of those very things. To truly commit in any meaningful way to a romantic partner simply means to deprive other people of that opportunity. Even to love a particular novel or movie or TV show or comic book or video game is to pay less attention to the efforts of all others working so hard to create these forms of creative content, and to that degree deprive others of equal validation for their work. And only someone who truly loves nothing at all could ever even imagine that loving everything—or everyone—equally is even an abstract possibility.

“Global citizens” may state in surveys that they want their nation to do more to reduce global inequality. But conservatives, constantly stereotyped by liberals as fetishizing the ideal of the wealthy capitalist fat cat boss, are in fact more likely to give out of their own pockets. (Furthermore, “Seventeen of the most generous states, in relative terms, voted for Romney in 2012, while 15 of the 17 least generous ones picked Obama for re-election.”)

Those who have the most to give their companions and partners will be the most selective as to who they choose to grant those roles—because they have the most to lose. And only those who have little to give in return will have any interest in spreading the lie that love of all is possible: these are the people who would benefit most if those with much to give refused to “discriminate” (since they are the ones who those with much to give have the most reason to discriminate against); and this lie, if believed, would encourage those with much to give not to discriminate against anyone. But the plain fact of the matter is that real love and loyalty quite simply are inherently discriminatory, by their very nature.

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  1. P.T. O'Talryn
    Posted October 19, 2017 at 7:35 pm | Permalink

    Useful article. Haverstock is referring to particularized love. This is not Agape (“more equivalent to pity”) which is indiscriminate, relating to each individual before oneself on an individual basis. One helps the stranger simply because he is a person, knowing the value of people as sparks of the divine.

    If we value mankind in and of itself, our loyalties to our loved ones are put in tension with our pity. Thus Agape becomes “charity” or better, the promotion of win-win political-economics. I agree we must not charity ourselves out of a country, but to promote the development of the world is to lower incentives for the world to beat down our door.

  2. Jaego
    Posted September 27, 2017 at 11:23 pm | Permalink

    Liberals have smaller amygdalas and have trouble recognizing threat. Yet their capacity for hatred is undiminished. So if they can’t recognize enemies, who are they going to hate? Their own people of course, specifically those who interfere with their warm and fuzzy. Their existence is simply a recipe for disaster. Research must find ways to prevent people like this from developing.

    https://www.livescience.com/13608-brain-political-ideology-liberal-conservative.html

  3. Lena
    Posted September 25, 2017 at 7:40 pm | Permalink

    This is nothing new or shocking to mothers. Our oxytocin levels, by design, stay very high throughout our children’s infant and toddler years. It is what drives us to protect them at nearly any cost. The longer you breastfeed, the higher the oxytocin levels, and the stronger the bond developed between mother and child. I have always been a compassionate and kind person, but after having children my priorities have been biologically and chemically re-ordered.

  4. Posted September 25, 2017 at 6:15 pm | Permalink

    Related: They cow and accuse the hapless locals in Montana, shouting “No Hate In Our State!” It’s appalling.

    So on one of high-trust White Missoula’s public pianos this summer, I wrote for them “No Love In Our State: A Cuck’s Anthem”:
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bhrHpunSYZw&t=135s

    “No Love In Our State — A Cuck’s Anthem”

    No love in our state
    You cannot love your ways
    No love in our state
    You mustn’t love that face
    And if you love your folk
    We’ll attack you most
    And we’ll call it hate

    We virtue-signal grand
    Make a virtue-signalling stand
    All the world’s my “family”
    (Though I don’t talk to dad)
    I don’t know my own kids
    But I will save all flesh
    Billions I don’t have

    When we get done
    You’re people will be gone

    I don’t love the things I know
    I’m kinda empty, kinda bored
    Now I got the perfect cure
    Invite the endless hordes
    Invasive species, come!
    Impossibly great, my love
    (‘Scuse me while I cuck)

    ‘Cuz this great love
    Loves seven billion

    Don’t question what we do
    We are moral, more than you
    If you do we’ll slander-spew
    Call you a Nazi too
    Supreemist, fascist, klan!
    We take the easy stand
    For the Marxist plan

    No love in our state
    You cannot love your ways
    No love in our state
    You must not love that face
    And if you love your kind
    We will demonize
    Callin’ that love hate

    When we get done
    You’re people will be gone

    ________
    Copyright 2017 Julian Lee

    • Aedon Cassiel
      Posted September 26, 2017 at 7:21 am | Permalink

      “All the world’s my “family”
      (Though I don’t talk to dad)”

      This line is brilliant and made me laugh out loud.

  5. Daniel Antinora
    Posted September 25, 2017 at 3:55 am | Permalink

    Lol.

    Liberals are oxytocin deficient.

    • KPD
      Posted September 25, 2017 at 6:58 am | Permalink

      Who would’ve thought?

    • Aedon Cassiel
      Posted September 25, 2017 at 7:55 am | Permalink

      Hell, it may even be worth asking if that’s part of the reason why married women vote more conservative. It’s also well known that conservatives have more children than liberals—but what if we have the causation here backwards, and one factor at play is that—for partially hormonal reasons—having more children makes people more conservative as well?

      • Walter
        Posted September 25, 2017 at 8:25 am | Permalink

        Aedon Cassiel:
        That’s what one could call the balloon model of reality: If you change one thing, you change everything else, it is not possible to just change one thing and leave all others unaffected. That’s what happens when one squeezes a balloon: it expands everywhere else and changes shape, will be larger except for the point of impression, the Change inflicted upon it.
        Hence, your suggestion that having more children makes people more “conservative” -perhaps more broadly understood as the tendency or urge to conserve that which seems to work and bear benefits in preference to constantly reforming everything all the times- is reflected in reality. Children need a provider, a protector and a guide, all of which forces parents to think ahead, i.e. conserve, even reaffirm their strength, their health, their focus.
        It is the curse of the leftists that they think that they can redefine reality by doing word games, hence their tenuous and oftentimes quite stupid relationship to reality and the swath of destruction they have drawn all over the globe.

        • Proofreader
          Posted September 26, 2017 at 10:07 pm | Permalink

          “That’s what one could call the balloon model of reality: If you change one thing, you change everything else, it is not possible to just change one thing and leave all others unaffected.” One could also call it Hardin’s first law of ecology: “We can never merely do one thing.” This was Garrett Hardin’s reformulation and correction of Barry Commoner’s first law of ecology: “Everything is connected to everything else.”

          A good summary of Hardin’s ideas on “ecolacy” can be found here:

          https://www.farnamstreetblog.com/2015/12/garrett-hardin-three-filters/

          • Walter
            Posted September 28, 2017 at 8:41 am | Permalink

            Thank you for your response. I am not familiar with Hardin, but I find that this insight that everything is connected to everything else, that everything is affected by and affects everything else is vastly unrecognized or dismissed especially by ideologically hardened individuals.
            – Such as the Antifa who may today want to tear down all societal and political structures they feel are in the way of their ideas, but don’t think about the consequences of their success and the new, hostile political reality they wish to create. They can only think of wish-fulfilment, but not of things turning out differently as they want them to be.
            It is strange that with all the education n natural sciences and mathematics, the many extant examples of unwanted and un-thought-of outcomes and talking about critical thinking the result is rather such stupidity than enlightended decision making and an enlightened attitude.
            What went wrong?

      • Chinese N Maiden
        Posted September 25, 2017 at 1:40 pm | Permalink

        That is an interesting thought: having more children makes you more conservative. Chinese have very few kids and I wonder what that actually means for China in terms of values.

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