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Going Home Again

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It’s a nice day to start again
There is nothing fair in this world
There is nothing safe in this world
And there’s nothing sure in this world
And there’s nothing pure in this world
Look for something left in this world
Start again — Billy Idol, “White Wedding

It had been quite a while since I last spent any meaningful amount of time in my hometown. When you read “hometown,” you probably imagine a very small, fairly poor, western town. It isn’t. I grew up in a mid-sized Midwestern city, a very multiracial place and reasonably affluent. Coming home was not about seeing closed factories or dying family farms. “The White Death” does not always have such universal icons marking its arrival.

My first night I met up with two good friends, Joseph and Henry, at one of our favorite hipster bars. We caught up and got drunk and it felt great. Joseph is doing very well. Always the techie of our group, he has been working at a very successful startup for a while now, and has loads of money. Henry, after spending years and years in academia finally decided it wasn’t worth it and wasn’t getting better, so opted out and is now a mailman. It is easy to make fun of him for that, but it was the right choice. His labor is more honest now, and his income and insurance more secure. I went home drunk and happy and fell asleep.

The next day Henry and I met up for lunch, along with an old film professor of Henry’s. It was nice at first, but I failed to noticed just how much wine Henry was drinking. By about four o’clock Henry was having a hard time finishing sentences. His old professor was a little amused, which surprised me. I proposed that we all go back to Henry’s and watch a movie. Henry had a hard time walking to my car a block away. When we arrived, he was so drunk he couldn’t figure out how his own TV and DVD player worked. Eventually he got it going and then fell asleep. The professor and I left. The next day Henry told me that he had actually slept through until that morning uninterrupted—about 17 hours of sleep in one go. I asked him if his live-in girlfriend was mad about it, and incredibly, he said she wasn’t. When I asked him what he wanted to do with the rest of his day, he said he was too hungover to do anything, and wanted to just stay inside his apartment all day and read by himself. Henry is 28.

That night I went out with Adam, my best friend from childhood. We went bowling with his wife and another couple. Adam just married her, after dating for years. She grew up across the street from him, and even when he and I were five he had a crush on her. He told me he was sorry for not inviting me to the wedding, but it was a small venue and I’d been gone for so long.

Two or three nights later I went to the same hipster watering hole with another old friend, King. King was always the baby of the group, several years younger than the rest of us. This was our first time together at a bar, and the first time we’d seen one another in almost three years. He generously bought the first round, but then sheepishly admitted that that was the last of his money because rent and bills had just cleared him out. I laughed and told him not to worry, that I’d cover us both for the rest of the night.

We drank local beer together for hours. King told me how he broke up with his girlfriend of seven years earlier this year, and that he’d been a very successful barslut ever since. Last year he was at a Christmas party and after drinking half a bottle of Black Velvet drove home. He got pulled over and spent three nights in county. His license was suspended and he had to pay a hefty fine. There was another fine to get his license back but he still hasn’t paid that one. He lamented that he was going to pay it with the large tax return poor people like him get every year, but that instead he spent the entire thing on cocaine. However, a few months ago he had to go to the ER because his chest pains got to be too much, so he has since stayed away from the stuff. Ergo, he is confident that he will be able to get his license back with next year’s tax return. King is 22.

We’re gettin’ no place fast as we can
Get a noseful from our so-called friends
We’re gettin’ nowhere quick as we know how
We whirl from town to town treatment bound
First thing we do when we finally pull up
Get shitface drunk try to sober up. — The Replacements, “Treatment Bound

The next night I got together with Mark at the same place. It had been about four years since I had last seen him. Back then he had decided to go back to college after dropping out so that he could stop paying back the large amount of debt he had taken on. That plan fell through as he dropped out again and now just has more debt. Now he is confident that he will not ever finish college, so is just trying to keep the interest rates at bay. I asked him if he was still seeing the girl he had been with for a year when I left. As it turns out, they broke up and Mark had tried to kill himself. He used an electrical cord to strangle himself, but lost consciousness before dying so his arms went limp before he could finish the job. Apparently his mom found him, but all he remembers is waking up in the ER. He spent a few days in a ward. The day he got out he tried to kill himself again. He used the same method, and failed the same way. And again, his mom found him and he woke up in the ER. After that he was put in the ward for “a long fucking time.” He told me he feels all better now. I asked him to call me the next time he planned on committing suicide. He laughed and said he would. Right now he has a pretty good gig working security at a popular concert venue. But he is trying to put together a plan to go to Colorado, buy as much high-quality pot as he can, and come back home to sell it so he can be done with his student loans. Mark is 25.

I feel an ocean of tears underneath my tongue
And the world is ending any minute now
But I can’t keep laughing ’cause I know it’s real — Soko, “Ocean of Tears

I have left home again and can’t stop thinking about my time there. Of course the sketches above are incomplete, but not every get-together made for a good story. I saw my old friends Beth and James as well, for instance. They are both doing . . . okay. My mother is also doing alright, I guess. My eldest sibling is doing very well. Happily married with kids and a house. Things are not all bad. I am so happy for Adam and this new chapter in his life, and Joseph is an eternal optimist, and with his skillset will always do well for himself.

Yet the angry ennui is there. Henry’s relationship with alcohol was never good, and it now seems worse than ever. At 28, it is getting harder and harder to imagine him turning this around without some kind of dire medical issue or tragic drunken antic waking him up. It bothers me that his girlfriend doesn’t mind. And I hate that Henry doesn’t seem to think he has better stuff to do than get plastered. The fact that he and I used to do that together when we were teenagers doesn’t matter to me. The time to grow-up came a long time ago.

I’m a person just like you
But I’ve got better things to do
Than sit around and fuck my head
Hang out with the living dead — Minor Threat, “Straight Edge

The anger in me for Henry’s state is nothing compared to the anger in me for King’s, though. Hospitalized for cocaine use at 22. Twenty-two. The number one cause of death in this country for people under 50 is overdose, remember. And that is not the case in countries we consider inferior to us, like Canada or France. Nor is it the case in countries we consider morally reprobate, like Iran. I should admit that I have consumed cocaine, and more than once. But this isn’t high school—it isn’t even college. We are all adults now, we all work, we should all be planning for the future, whatever that is.

And what about Mark? Jesus fucking Christ. What the fuck am I supposed to do if he kills himself?

I hate living in this sad sad world where so many people I know are not living for tomorrow, or even for today—they are living for yesterday. I hate knowing that this will be the case for, at the very least, quite a while. I hate that because I had an extra 10 or 15 IQ points on everyone else I left for a coast, made some money, and moved away from the self-righteous hedonism of adolescent rage.

We won’t survive we’re sinking into the sand
All I wanna do is get high by the beach
Get high by the beach get high
All I wanna do is get by by the beach — Lana Del Rey, “High by the Beach

When we were all teenagers, we weren’t exactly wrong for doing what we did. The schools we went to were shit, our parents were losers, the global economy crashed, a lot of our older cousins had gotten fucked up fighting in our nation’s shitty wars. The adults we knew were liars for telling us tomorrow would be better as they lost their houses and got divorced. They lied to us when they said the schools we went to weren’t that bad, and they lied to a lot of us when they said college debt would be worth taking on. I wish when we were 16 that there had been something more meaningful and productive for us to be a part of, but there wasn’t. We all felt smart for knowing that the planet was a lie. And once you know it’s a lie, you’re just a sucker if you don’t get high.

But I don’t feel that way anymore. Like everyone else, I’m older now. With adulthood comes options. With agency comes opportunities. I’m better at making choices now than before. God might be dead, but my goals aren’t. So why do so many of the most important people from my adolescence and early twenties not feel the same? Or, alternatively, we did the distractions and escapes of our youth become their goals in adulthood? More selfishly: why haven’t I been able to build a better world, where they no longer feel this way?

I don’t know, I don’t have a clue. Sometimes I think that when the Revolution comes, I’ll be in a position to direct the state to execute the people who sold King all that coke. Maybe I’ll be able to piece together who it was that closed Henry’s avenues to happiness, and I’ll get to torture them on live TV. Since I will obviously be the hero of whatever great White Uprising, I’ll be able to get Mark a cushy but fulfilling government gig so he feels happy and forgets about his debt. Of course, the trouble is that writing for White Nationalist websites doesn’t actually transform the world into Fight Club. When I was younger, I thought that it might, but I haven’t been so sure about that for years now.

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10 Comments

  1. Toddy Cat
    Posted October 17, 2017 at 2:47 pm | Permalink

    “the self-righteous hedonism of adolescent rage”

    That’s a great phrase, right there…

  2. Jordan
    Posted October 13, 2017 at 11:16 am | Permalink

    I can relate a lot with this essay. I’m also from a midwestern small city (not a ‘town’) that I always longed to leave growing up and now have been gone for 10 years mostly in coastal cities. Got a masters, dated many beautiful women, traveled quite a lot and generally have lived a pretty privelaged lifestyle due perhaps to both my natural good looks and IQ level.

    However, I’m at a point now where I see our society crumbling, and I’m crumbling right along with it. I have no purpose, no mission, no motivation. No hope that I’ll meet a woman with actual moral values who would also like to raise a family and doesn’t have some dollar figure requirement for how much you need to have for her to be/stay with you (that’s not a real relationship, y’all, it’s a business transaction).

    I have never identified with the economics-is-everything libertarian autists who have weak ties to family and community and see and judge everything through that social status lens. Also seeing complete tribalization of our society and the deterioration of any sense of national identity, being awoken to the anti-white hate and pure selfishness of the vast majority of people (‘swallowing the red pill’ as it were) has got me a in a funk of drinking and general decay and hopelessness.

    Which brings me to places like counter currents where they are actually providing some answers or at least asking some good questions regarding where this is all going. Thank you guys for that. I kind of feel that this is the place for freethinkers who don’t necessarily identify as traditionally conservative in the economic sense or even social sense, but nonetheless do have strong moral values and a sense of self-respect (i.e. not cucks).

    I suppose my hope is that like-minded people can get together and support each other through thick and thin and build each other up, as 2 are stronger than 1, 3 stronger than 2, etc. Is that naive? Are we too far gone down the wage-slave career-is-everything rabbit hole to go in another direction? I feel there are very few voices on the right who have a real practical way forward (I agree with GM above) that doesn’t involve basically expelling gays/jews/non-whites or othering those don’t fit into our little purity spiral. Most of the alt-right leading voices seem to be in a toxic and unsustainable purity spiral that is similar to the SJW purity spiral.

    Just some thoughts. Thanks for this piece.

    • jbwilson24
      Posted October 15, 2017 at 10:50 am | Permalink

      “I have never identified with the economics-is-everything libertarian autists who have weak ties to family and community”

      Well said. That is part of my critique of libertarian philosophy as well. They forget about other values. Oddly enough Mises, Hayek and Rockwell were/are NOT of this persuasion. They did provide for community, culture and ethnicity.

  3. Captain John Charity Spring MA
    Posted October 13, 2017 at 4:20 am | Permalink

    Don’t get mad at yourselves GET EVEN.

  4. Leah
    Posted October 12, 2017 at 7:42 pm | Permalink

    I feel like I’m watching all of my childhood (and most of my current) friends become the walking dead. Early twenty-something girls with perpetual dark circles under their eyes, perpetual hangovers, and perpetual debt, ready to viciously defend their “right” to do whatever they want at the slightest provocation. I have the same feeling of hating that I see it so clearly, I hate thinking of what these young women (and men, too, but I’ve lately been observing women) could have been and could still be with some guidance and real self reflection. They’re like vines without a trellis, and they’re choking on their inability to grow upward.

  5. GB
    Posted October 12, 2017 at 4:49 pm | Permalink

    This piece describes very well that anxiety we all feel at a certain point in our lives when we realize we’re adults and there’s no going back to a certain carefree lifestyle we led until a few years ago. I can see parts of myself in some of the different friends although I already went through that phase and after a good 10-15 years of stability (financial, professional, etc.) I am now in a different rut. I’m 42, I’m having some health complications, my wife has a more serious medical condition, and the generation before me (parents, uncles, etc.) is starting to die or become almost unrecognizably old. I have made some life changes that I believe will help me overcome all this in the short term, including moving from a big city to a small town that’s more in tune with my lifestyle, refocusing on a healthier way of living that includes eating well and more exercise, and leaving behind a soulless job (where I made about $160,000) for something that pays much less but gives me more time to dedicate myself to other, more interesting pursuits (work is a curse, as Cioran believed.) I used to drink like Henry and had many friends who did the same until about their early 30s, but they eventually dropped it, be it because of the need to function from Monday to Friday, because their drinking partners moved on or simply because they got bored of drinking. In my experience, most heavy drinkers stop engaging in that behavior as their body tells them it’s not worth the hangover and priorities in one’s own life shift when you get married, have a kid or contract debt obligations such as a mortgage that severely limit your idle time and your idle money.

    In any event, I believe these epiphanies and realizations help us realize that life is relentlessly bleak, but that doesn’t mean you have no agency to lead a fruitful lifestyle and that there aren’t enough motivators to keep you going and strive for more. In other words, giving one’s life meaning and purpose, as corny and clichéd as it may sound. One could dedicate a whole new essay to discussing the spiritual and political outlook that can inspire you and help you overcome that skepticism about social change that’s expressed in the last paragraph of this article. Nonetheless, since the text is more focused on the mundane aspects of life, I can mention what motivates me. If you are a family man like I am, one of my main motivations is giving my young daughter a good education (and I’m obviously not talking about SAT preparation or things like that.) If family and getting married is not your thing, you already have considerably more time and potentially more material resources you can use to do much more than just writing articles for a website.

    Going back to the bleakness of life, one subtext I see in this article is what a wasteland of a society America is and how things like abusively low wage jobs, burdensome student debt, and crippling fines are considered normal, sensible annoyances one must tolerate. I’d be willing to justify a society with low wages, expensive education, and a puritanically punitive police state if the payoff was less crime, well-rounded professionals (literate people who also understand the value of the arts instead of simply living like money-grubbing sociopaths) and jobs that didn’t suck all your energy and time. Unfortunately, shitty conditions lead to a shitty society like the present neoliberal nightmare that is America. The main thing to understand is that race isn’t everything and that no people can flourish in a world where the market is the sole arbiter of value for all that is important. Libertarianism, an infantile pseudo-ideology that is only taken seriously in the U.S. and which has never been implemented anywhere because it’s not feasible, is dead weight to a genuinely revolutionary movement. It proposes a scale of values that is antithetical to a worldview that supposedly cares about an extended family and kin, not to mention that it’s simply not grounded in economic or political reality.

    But I digress. I think the despair and anxiety felt and expressed by the narrator and the people described in this article can be ameliorated and eventually turned into something constructive with a proper worldview and strategies to enact it. This is why I can’t fully get behind many of the so-called alt right leaders like Richard Spencer. They seem to be wandering aimlessly and jumping from activity to activity with no strategy, plan or short-term and long-term goals that will translate into concrete, durable accomplishments. In short: lack of a worldview, lack of a strategy. That’s the problem, and the solution (and I realize I’m talking in very broad strokes) is to become immersed in our worldview (I call it fascism, not white nationalism or alt-right) and work on ways to materialize it. The revolution is not going to happen on its own. Realizing this should be motivation enough.

    • Pietas
      Posted October 12, 2017 at 7:25 pm | Permalink

      Relevant to this discussion might be Bertrand Russel’s book The Conquest of Happiness. It’s no magic pill, but pretty good from what I’ve read so far.

    • Pietas
      Posted October 12, 2017 at 7:32 pm | Permalink

      I wonder, how much white nationalism defines some of us, with its urgent sense of purpose. If everything was perfect, we might lose this special sense of identity, this thrill of secret conspiratorial knowledge. Counter currents would cease to exist as people went “well duuuuh, who would ever think otherwise.” ” who would let their country get overrun by the third world lol”.

  6. curri
    Posted October 12, 2017 at 2:17 pm | Permalink

    “And that is not the case in countries we consider inferior to us like Canada or France.”

    But there’s a crystal meth epidemic in Australia:
    https://www.jameslafond.com/article.php?id=9191

  7. Monson
    Posted October 12, 2017 at 11:02 am | Permalink

    I find despair, ennui and demoralization very common within my age group (early thirties). Some have managed to gain a wife and a family but they’re the exception. Most are living extended adolescent lifestyles and generally dismiss things that may help them on their way.

    Personally, I’ve had issues with anxiety, depression and other mental health problems. I used to be a strong, independent and attractive young man. Now I’m out of shape and in a rut. It’s sad but it’s something I have to confront and aim to get out of.

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