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The Chad Virgin vs. the Virgin Chad

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Some weeks ago, a study from Columbia University was publicized which found that 27% of ‘Alt-Right’ men were still virgins by the age of 26.

Of course, we know why this is the statistic that was spread in the media. If a study found that ‘Alt Right’ men were 100% less likely to practice bizarre and disgusting sexual activities like, say, felching than liberals, we wouldn’t find the media reporting on that at all. Even if something the media reports about us isn’t literally false, the bias in what numbers they choose to look for — or mention — in the first place is still there. The point of this report was propaganda. Even though we’re talking about less than a third of identified ‘Alt Right’ men, the point is still to portray the whole of the ‘Alt Right’ as sexually frustrated losers, and our movement as the byproduct of sexual frustration.

When “the manosphere” started to take tips from pick-up artists to try to have more casual sex — and it worked — that was because they were manipulative misogynists. If the Alt Right is now having less casual sex, well — that’s because the Alt Right is full of misogynists too! Never mind findings like the discovery that more women than men are obese in America, and the gap is only widening, of course — this is all just about men being losers .

For the purpose of propaganda, the article would, of course, neglect to mention that all millennials are having less sex than their grandparents did. In fact, in recent years “the average American adult had sex nine times fewer per year than the average American adult did in 1989.”

It’s convenient to ignore this while singling out ‘Alt Right’ men because it so obviously suggests that the problem, to the extent that there is one, is one deeply entrenched in society as a whole. How could a rapidly dropping frequency of sexual activity across the entire population coincide with how much more “sex-positive” the world has become since the 1930s? How could it coincide with the ubiquity of pornography and contraception, legalized abortion, and rises in STD infection rates being traceable through hookup apps like Tinder? The percentage of polled subjects who viewed premarital sex as “not wrong at all” grew from about 29 percent in the 70s to 58 percent by 2012. So how the Hell could we be having less of it now?

Much of the answer revolves around marriage. First, because “approximately two-thirds of the decline in sexual frequency was [directly] due to the decline in the number who were married.” Second, a decline in sexual frequency among married individuals is happening in large part because marriage is happening so much later (the average age at first marriage in 1990 was 23; now, it’s 27).

Another part of the answer is hormonal contraception, which ironically lowers sexual desire in women directly — while also making them less attracted to masculine men and more attracted to feminine ones. Meanwhile, a whopping 1 in 5 women are now on antidepressants — which interfere with the lubrication process, block orgasm, and lower desire all at once. How long before we see articles in the mainstream press blaming women’s currently lowered sexual activity on their mental instability?

Leah Fessler’s senior thesis based on studies of hookup culture on Middlebury college campus is available for download online, detailing how miserable these environments actually make everyone involved: it isn’t just the women who would prefer actual relationships, it’s the men too. But everyone keeps having more casual sex in part because they overestimate how much everyone else is having — keeping everyone in a perpetual state of trying to keep up with imaginary Joneses. This is why other studies have found that just giving everyone an accurate picture of how much sex everyone else is actually having actually does directly cause hookup cultures on college campuses to slow down.

So hookup cultures contribute to a great deal of emotional misery, in part because what people really crave are meaningful bonds of connection, but they also make everyone less capable of forming those meaningful bonds, then or later. And surprisingly, this doesn’t just go for women. We already know that the more previous sexual partners a woman has, the less likely she is to be happy in marriage. But the same thing is true in men, too: marital sexual satisfaction declines more than 5% for every partner a man has been with other than his spouse. Since this effect isn’t restricted to just men or women, it suggests an explanation in terms of human universals.

Attempts at giving such explanations tend to revolve around the idea of opportunity costs: it’s not that it changes anything about a person’s current relationships to have had a more extensive past, but simply that a more extensive past makes them more aware of what they might be missing out on when they think about where their current relationship is. First of all, even if this is the case, it still isn’t a good thing. If what married people are pining for and judging their marriages against — to growing dissatisfaction with their marriage — are one-night stands, then the most likely scenario is that they’re thinking of another relationship that would have been highly dissatisfying in all the same ways had it actually evolved into a serious long-term relationship like marriage. And increasing the amount of fuel that people have for this kind of unrealistic idealization obviously isn’t a good thing.

The only people actually defending this sort of explanation are those that view the goal of relationships as pursuit of a solipsistic fantasy of self-indulgence by finding a person that strikes off every conceivable checkbox of perfection, thinking of the ideal partner as ‘someone who makes me happy in every way’ without giving anywhere near as much thought to what it is that they actually have to offer in turn in the first place. And the real problem with this is that we have an entire world full of less-than-perfect people who have to come to grips with loving each other enough to be willing and able to raise families together, or else civilization is literally going to end up dead. That’s the actual goal here.

But I think this explanation is idiotic in the first place, because it really isn’t an argument we’d use for anything else. All I have to do to know how much I like chocolate is eat chocolate and then notice that my response to it is positive. All I have to do to know how much I dislike broccoli is eat broccoli and then notice that my response to it is negative. I don’t have to eat chocolate for comparison to know that I dislike broccoli, and I don’t have to eat broccoli for comparison to know that I like chocolate.

Of course, it has also become well established as a general principle of psychological research that giving people more choices actually contributes directly to making people less happy itself, anyway — to the point that giving people more choices in jams literally makes them less satisfied with the experience of eating the sandwich later. If giving people a wider range of choices in jams makes them enjoy eating sandwiches less, why wouldn’t giving people a wider range of choices in sexual partners make them enjoy marriage less in just the same way?

Here’s my theory about what’s actually going on.

The occult is full of all kinds of bizarre “sex magic” rituals used to pursue altered states of consciousness. While it isn’t an ideal we can realistically expect everyone to uphold, virginity until marriage (or at least mutual, tested, and proven emotional commitment) really is the strongest form of “sex magic” there is.

When a mother duck gives birth to ducklings, those ducklings come hardwired with a ‘program’ that seeks out the first moving object and then designates that as the object they will follow until they grow up to become adult ducks. This heuristic worked in their evolutionary past because the first thing they saw that moved was effectively always their mother. But we can exploit that heuristic now by placing something other than their actual mother duck in front of them — a moving object, a human being — causing them to bond to that thing and follow that thing until they reach adulthood instead.

In human beings, the neural mechanisms that lead to pair-bonding and partnership are intensely linked to sex. In other words, orgasm works for the human brain much like birth works for a newborn duck, activating a system that says something like “the next thing I see move is what I’m going to bond to.” It makes very clear evolutionary sense why something like this should occur: sex is the thing that produces babies, and babies are the evolutionary reason why we need to pair-bond in the first place. The post-coital state, in other words, places us in an imprintable state equivalent in plasticity to the newborn duck’s.

I think we all understand this intuitively, actually: I’ve known many ‘player’ types who explicitly had the rule that they would make sure to avoid the girl they had just had casual sex with post-coitus, precisely to help retain their emotional aloofness, lest they form a stronger emotional attachment to sounds and smells they experience in the post-coital state. When I first arrived at college, I started to think I liked a girl, apparently more than she liked me. She was, however, interested in having sex with me. The advice I received from a ‘player’ friend was that if I was going to lose my virginity with someone in my first semester of college, I should absolutely do it with absolutely anyone but her, unless I wanted to end up with a seriously difficult and disappointing case of “oneitis.” In my experience, even those most actively interested in casual sex have always expressed some level of awareness of this phenomenon.

So what would happen if we took that mechanism, and we constantly exposed it to its built-in, triggering event (orgasm) but then refused to allow the program it’s designed to activate (deep bonding) follow? It seems very obvious that if there were a way to do so, then this would be the way to de-program it – a kind of Pavlovian deconstructioning of the natural human hardwiring that enables us to form deep bonds.

A chef who spends his entire day surrounded by food isn’t going to salivate as often as the sight or smell of food. He may have refined and specific tastes in what kind of food he enjoys eating. But where most of us, who only expose ourselves to food once we’re actually hungry, will experience our entire digestive system begin activating when food is nearby, the chef has taught his body through years of behavior that seeing or smelling food doesn’t mean that digestion is happening soon.

In the same way, the more orgasms we have with people we don’t end up bonding deeply to — and the less deep any resulting bonds are — the more we train our innate programming that sex is not an occasion to activate those deep bonding mechanisms. At the far end of the extreme, however, remaining a virgin until marriage would retain the full force of that mechanism ready to be unleashed. This theory is completely consistent with what most people implicitly acknowledge in their real world behavior, and if true it would perfectly explain why there would be a linear correlation between fewer previous sexual partners and greater marriage satisfaction and success.

Alt Right men desire families. They want the kind of lasting and meaningful compatibility in their relationships that it takes to build one. They want children. And they want women who are in tune with their feminine instincts enough to want them too. One classic image I assume is from the 1950s I’ve seen shared around circles in the Alt Right in a whole variety of different contexts looks like this:

Instead of going for cheap shots by laughing at ‘Alt Right’ men for all the obese, anti-depressant-ridden purple-haired feminist thots out for casual sex they aren’t fucking on Tinder, you might be better off to check back in another fifteen or twenty years and ask how successful their marriages and their children have been. Because it’s already quite clear that the liberal environment of widely available but rarely satisfying porn and casual sex the media has helped to create isn’t working well for much of anyone in the first place.


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  1. Michael Kumpmann
    Posted November 24, 2017 at 12:43 pm | Permalink

    Well, personally, I think there is another aspect to this: People who have a family are far more likely to accept overall bad situations. (Perhaps, this is because having children is the easiest way to give your life a purpose.) It is no accident, that the phrase “rose tinted glasses” is frequently used on topic of love.

    Perhaps, people who can’t find love in a certain way never get “rose tinted glasses” and are less likely to accept the injustices of the world.

  2. geiger
    Posted November 23, 2017 at 4:28 pm | Permalink

    There is also a tendency in the media to portray alt-righters (or even white men in general) as unmasculine. It’s probably true that many alt-righters used to be ‘good boys’, which entails having conservative sexual morals, who are disillusioned because they now realize that they don’t get rewarded for their good behaviour, but it’s the ‘bad boys’, the Tyrones and Jamals who turn up as the establishment’s favourites.

  3. Proofreader
    Posted November 18, 2017 at 4:37 am | Permalink

    Although Lenin was a Judeo-Bolshevik monster, I think his views on the glass of water theory of sex are pertinent to the article above. Speaking to Clara Zetkin, Lenin said:

    “You must be aware of the famous theory that in communist society the satisfaction of sexual desires, of love, will be as simple and unimportant as drinking a glass of water. This glass of water theory has made our young people mad, quite mad. It has proved fatal to many young boys and girls. . . . Of course, thirst must be satisfied. But will the normal person in normal circumstances lie down in the gutter and drink out of a puddle, or out of a glass with a rim greasy from many lips? But the social aspect is most important of all. Drinking water is, of course, an individual affair. But in love two lives are concerned, and a third, a new life, arises, it is that which gives it its social interest, which gives rise to a duty towards the community.”

    Alas, drinking out of “a glass with a rim greasy from many lips” seems to have become the new normal.

  4. Deep North
    Posted November 16, 2017 at 2:49 pm | Permalink

    The Millennial Generation is screwed. White Millennial women are waiting until their early to mid thirties to start having children. That’s even if they find their unrealistic version of Mr. Right. Millennial women want families only after 6-8 years of higher education, backpacking Europe for a year, volunteering in some Third World country and getting established in their careers. Having children isn’t a priority as it once was. This was once the domain of wealthy women. Now girls from working class backgrounds go to college and come out elitist snobs. Young women focused on “muh career” are more of a threat to the white birth rate than pink haired Feminist.who wouldn’t start families anyways.

  5. dc.sunsets
    Posted November 15, 2017 at 3:31 pm | Permalink

    Nature gives us physical intimacy as a mechanism for increasing emotional intimacy. It’s hardly shocking to discover that habituating to physical intimacy without emotional intimacy renders a man or woman unable to later re-link the two.

    The grass isn’t greener on the other side of the fence; it’s greener where you water it. Casual sex conditions people to think the next partner will be “better, faster, etc.” just like buying a new car, a pair of shoes or a handbag is the central pillar of our empty consumer culture.

    How sad that people are too stupid to see this until they’ve already buried their future.

  6. KPD
    Posted November 14, 2017 at 6:26 pm | Permalink

    I had talked to a girl through one of the degenerate dating websites for over a week and agreed on meeting her this past Saturday. On Friday she asked if I voted in last year’s election and for who. Up until then the girl seemed intelligent, friendly and well-adjusted. I stated I voted for Trump and she told me she couldn’t see a future with someone like me (imagine the total cuck she will eventually settle for). In other words one doesn’t even need to be an overt white nationalist to have a hard time finding someone. For some, support of our sitting president makes you a bigot, racist etc. Maybe it’s payback for using women for the one thing I thought they were good for, but it’s hard to find one without lying, and what relationship can be built on that? Great piece as always.

  7. dolph
    Posted November 14, 2017 at 3:54 pm | Permalink

    Let me stereotype a bit.

    In America, blacks and hispanics will screw anything that moves, and won’t use any forms of birth control (though sometimes the women will get an abortion). The result is their populations grow over time, especially when fully supported by the functioning of the industrial super state.

    In America, whites are more selective, and on top of that will use birth control. They prolong the game and go for the best. The result over time is less kids, especially to middle and working class whites who in times past had large families.

    So actually, there is still quality being reproduced in whites, but the overall numbers go down.

  8. lonehome
    Posted November 14, 2017 at 12:40 pm | Permalink

    I’d love to know the stats on the sexual experience levels of the young white men of antifa, who march with feminists, and BLM but I won’t hold my breath on an accurate account of those numbers

  9. Steve-O
    Posted November 14, 2017 at 12:09 pm | Permalink

    I think that there is another issue at play. If you are a liberal or a normie Republican male, it isn’t that hard to find women who will agree with you. There’s a fairly big gender gap in libertarianism, but only the most fanatical leftist women will turn their nose up at a guy for being a libertarian.
    If you are a white nationalist, there is an even bigger gap gender wise. And most women, if you are an active and overt white nationalist, will be extremely put off by that worldview. So if you are a white nationalist looking for a mate, you either have to practice taqiyya or compete for one of the relatively few women in the movement.

    • Kai Wesselchak
      Posted November 14, 2017 at 4:55 pm | Permalink

      Eh, or find a good-hearted woman who may not explicitly endorse WN but accepts worthy male leadership.

      But to be fair, the dating market is becoming increasingly skewed against men; as the author noted, for instance, we have the widening obesity gap among all races, including Whites (doubly bad as obesity harms women more in the sexual marketplace than men: overweight men could theoretically compensate for the drawback of being obese with interesting experiences, dominance, etc., but none of that will increase an obese woman’s beauty); we also have women self-sabotaging with hair dye, tanning that will prematurely age their skin and take away its White beauty; sabotaging their worthiness of commitment with anti-male doctrines of radical feminism, etc.

    • Voryn Illidari
      Posted November 15, 2017 at 5:25 pm | Permalink

      There’s not much sense in going on a date and straight up saying “Yo, I’m a White Nationalist!” Better instead to just come across as a regular right winger in most things, and over time feel out if the girl is at least amenable to WN views. I waited until an appropriate moment on my third date with my (now)wife to ask if she ever dated a black guy, to which she said “Helll no! You couldn’t pay me enough!” Gradually I realized more and more that she was mostly in sync with my worldview, to the point where I just started saying “nigger” and “kike” unabashedly. Then I started red pilling her more deeply. She may not agree 100% with every single tenet of WN, but she wants to live in the world we wish to create for the most part. for most WN men, having a girl like this would be the likeliest best case scenario and it’s not impossible to find. if a girl is hard core liberal, your best bet will be nailing her a few times (use precautions!). But a girl who is generally conservative isn’t terribly hard to flip, so long as you don’t fully unleash too early.

  10. Posted November 14, 2017 at 12:46 am | Permalink

    Without taking away from your post, you might want to take a look at the r/K Theory:

    According to that theory (I think its more than just a theory) this behaviour is to be expected. Alt-right will be predominantly K-select and have a late onset of sexual activity and prefer mate bonding over variety.

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