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Secrets to a Happy Life:
A Primer for 20-Something Whites

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Is age 36 comparatively too young for me to be dispensing life advice?

Probably.

But I’ve seen enough misery among White friends, relatives, and co-workers who are in their 30s and 40s that I’m motivated to write. A lot of the misery, I’m convinced, is caused by the death-inducing lies fed to Whites by the popular culture — a culture that is heavily influenced by consumerism, pharmacology, misguided White liberalism and our Jewish ethnic competitors.

Whites today are a mess. They’re declining in numbers, politically dispossessed, and confused about who they are. They are ignorant of their history and haven’t even thought of their future as a race of people. So it should come as no surprise that they currently aren’t making any future to speak of. I’m chipping in to reverse this trend.

Don’t think of this as anything definitive or comprehensive. It’s a jumping-off point, food for thought, a spark for the mental juices.

Consider:

1. Get married

Once upon a time, mothers wanted this. Fathers wanted this. The whole family wanted this. They put pressure on younger people, and it worked. Today, that pressure is gone. It’s not good a good thing for Whites generally, or you personally.

Staying single into your 30?s and 40?s is recipe for isolated misery. The natural order of a healthy American life is to get married. Christians believe this, and correctly. Atheist racialist evolutionists believe this, and correctly. Whatever else motivates you, you should believe this, too. Because it’s true.

The “death culture” is one primarily aimed at Whites. Reject it. Don’t think that a happy life means perpetual adolescence and never-ending bachelorhood or bachelorette-hood. It’s a lie.

You look better at age 25. You have an open window, and you need to climb through it.

I cannot fathom the number of very smart and very attractive White women I’ve seen go unmarried. If you’re a woman, read “Just Marry Him,” the 2008 article from The Atlantic.

Read it if you’re a man, too.

I repeat: get married. It’s the rare person whose life is so important that they can’t be bothered to get married. Most presidents of late have been married, with children. If leaders of the free world can manage it with their schedules, so can you.

Marriage can be miserable. I need not go on about this. But it is far superior to the alternative: loneliness, partnerless-ness, family-lessness. On balance, I think studies show that married people are happier and live longer. Human beings need a partner, a family, a sense of the future. Lying in bed every night knowing that your body is the end of the genetic line should be a bracing thought. So kill the thought by getting married and having kids.

I am convinced that some Whites (usually women), disappointed by their inability to find a partner, declare themselves to be homosexual and pair off that way. I’m frustrated by this, partly because I doubt the actual “homosexuality” of these folks.

I’m not pointing fingers here, but maybe Whites of both sexes need to dispense with the notion that they’ll marry a matinee idol. You might be happier with a chunky White man with bad eyes who can give you children than another miserable chunky White woman who can’t.

The bottom line: wait for the perfect man or woman, and you’ll be waiting a long time. Marry someone you can stand, who you can imagine waking up next to every morning. Doesn’t sound romantic, I know, but there it is.

2. Marry a White person

You’ll be happier. I encounter dozens of White women who, convinced by Jewish propaganda that a Black man will enrich them, end up living ghetto lifestyles. Don’t buy this lie.

There is nothing more completely revolting and dispiriting to me than the sight of a White woman trailing her Black or Hispanic “ghetto daddy” and their corn-rowed, ghetto-beclothed young ones. Typically, she herself has often thrown in with the ghetto lot, dressing in sweatclothes and adopting a ghetto hairstyle of some kind.

But it’s not just me who’s made unhappy. These women are not really happy. They have descended to the undercrust of life, seemingly without an opportunity to return. These women are sometimes physically abused, living in lowly conditions, and otherwise ill-cared for (personal observation).

I don’t imagine that the thousands of White males who’ve married Asian women are as miserable as the White partners of Blacks, but I counsel avoiding this route as well. An Asian woman might have some advantages over a White woman — less feminist comes to mind — but try overlooking this for the good of the race.

By marrying a White person, you will be more closely related to your children. And since you would be more closely related to your White children, psychological research shows that you would be likely to have better rapport with them.

Your in-laws will be White, which will make things easier. They understand you. You understand them. The whole extended family will be White. A nice shelter in an increasingly hateful world.

And let’s face it — it’s not like White people are unattractive. A Jewish male might face the temptation to marry a pretty blonde “shiksa,” but he’s encouraged to get past that and marry into his ethnicity. You, White gentile male, should be marrying the pretty blonde (or brunette, or redhead). Many Jewish mothers would agree.

3. Have children

Don’t wait until your 40s. It is simply a lie that childbirth at 42 is as easy and risk-free as childbirth at 28. The media tells you this because it’s not interested in a healthy White society — it’s interested in quite the opposite. In fact, it’s much harder for women to get pregnant after age 35.

So many White women have been devastated by this falsehood: they put off children for an empty career end up pregnant with Down Syndrome babies, birth defects, birth difficulties, the need for fertility drugs, you name it.

Listen to nature: have children in your 20s and 30s. Have lots of them. Don’t worry about paying for them. They will not starve, believe me.

Making partner at Stumpson & Wickwacker is not more fulfilling.

Children are an absolute delight. Yes, they are also a pain. But don’t listen to the lies about how having kids will ruin your life. They won’t. Your life is not so important that you can’t change a damn diaper. This will put you in touch with reality. Someone changed your diaper, after all — give back, as the liberals like to say.

It just isn’t normal to go childless. Healthy life means being surrounded by all ages of Whites, from infancy to deathbed. This is life, and this is how it should be.

You look like an idiot with all your yuppie toys and no kids at 46. I’ve seen this White couple all over — on my side of the family and my wife’s. They have spectacular homes, very nicely decorated. Great, I admire that. But what lurks there is creeping death, and a certain sadness.

Few people accomplish all they seek in life. Your kids are your chance to live on. Don’t be the end of the family line, as Morrissey sings. Maybe it’s okay for him — he’s Morrissey. You shouldn’t be. Someone needs to be there in the future to enjoy the moping of Morrissey.

Having children is pretty much your primary life job. Get to it. And if an adorable blonde two-year-old squealing “daddy” and running into your arms when you get home from work isn’t enough, take a darker view: Your race is dying, White people. Resuscitate, stat.

Do it for the rest of us. I have never seen older White people light up so brightly as when they see White babies and children. You can almost hear them thinking, “thank God there are some left.”

Don’t listen to those childless Whites who proclaim that they’re perfectly happy without children. How would they know? If they were so naturally happy, would they feel the need to point it out?

And for God’s sake — dogs are not a substitute for children. “Well, you know, Max is really our baby,” I’ll hear childless White couples say about the Golden Retriever. No. He’s not. Max may be a nice dog, but calling him “your baby” makes a mockery of the human experience.

4. Live in a White area

Unless you’ve got a specially-tailored pro-White urban plan (like working to influence the urban opinion machine or getting really rich), get out of the cities. They’re great places for adventure, I know: I lived in New York City for seven years, and liked it, for the most part (counting the racial and Jewish reality lessons the place taught me).

But they are no place to raise a White family. Steve Sailer has even shown that they tend to choke off White families because of the costs involved.

Working and living in non-White areas corrodes the soul. It raises the blood pressure. You just don’t get along as well with Blacks, Hispanics and aggressive Jews as you do with your own White kind, believe me. In White areas, your neighbors will watch out for you. You can borrow jumper cables from them. They can borrow sugar from you. It’s nice. It’s comforting. It’s good.

It’s also so obvious I wondered whether I had to include it. Demographically, this is what Whites do, anyway. When they seek urban life, they sometimes head for White cities like Portland, Oregon. Fine.

5. Get rich

One pro-White figure of great stature recommends living off 90 percent of what you earn, and saving or investing the rest. That’s a good rule . . . live on a little less than what you make, basically. Try to stay out of debt, recognizing that education debt and mortgages are hard to avoid for normal people. Do not live on credit cards. Start the retirement account early. Slow and steady wins the race. Don’t put a lot of money in cars. They’re a terrible investment because they lose value so quickly.

6. But don’t let your career overtake your life

If you’re miserable on the job, you’ll be miserable, period. This is where you spend a lot of time, even if you’ve managed to escape the clutches of law firm life or some other week-gobbling enterprise.

It sounds trite, but it’s true: Do something you enjoy, something you’re good at. It’s going to take a hell of a lot of money to be satisfied with work you don’t like. What isn’t true is that if you “do what you love, the money will roll in.” Tell this to a writer. Still, better to do what you love.

7. Consider going to church

It would be way too hypocritical for me to suggest a rigorous faith life for anyone, which is why I say “consider” going to church. (If you already go, great — stick with it.) I see a great centering power, and hewing to Western traditional ways, in church. If nothing else, plant your rear on a pew for an hour a week to meditate. Even an atheist can do that, right? In college I might have said that believing in God was more important than going to church. I now believe that going to church is more important than believing in God. Just a thought.

8. Avoid drugs

Every other White person seems to be gulping down Prozac, Xanax, you name it. I am not a doctor, but I suspect these drugs are heavily overprescribed. A little bit of anxiety and depression is normal. Deal with them by talking to friends and family, finding a hobby or talking a walk. Maybe a little Jack Daniels if none of those work.

9. Know your family history

I am shocked by the number of Whites who don’t know ancestors beyond grandparents. You might find some comfort in knowing who your ancestors were, what they did and where they came from. I suspect that a “who cares” attitude toward this topic is helped along by the demonization of Whites as a people. So screw with the system a little and find out where your blood comes from. You might expand this to learning a little about your race’s history, from Greco-Roman times through the present. Your child will learn who Cesar Chavez was, but will he learn who Charles Martel was?

10. Stand up for your race

In ways big and small, there’s something more you could be doing. If you’re looking for a cause or a purpose larger than yourself, consider tackling the White plight. It will not win you admiration from the current power structure, but will give you the happiness that comes from fighting for a real cause.

From The Occidental Observer, November 17, 2009

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33 Comments

  1. P.T. Barnum
    Posted December 27, 2010 at 9:45 am | Permalink

    Every single point is designed for you to get what you want out of the young person.

    Not one single one benefits him or her without benefiting you. Ideally, it would only benefit you, and indeed you achieve that in some points.

    Since you understand that your demands benefit you far more than them, you wisely say that others should TURN THE SCREWS on them young’n.

    You are a swell guy.

  2. Posted December 23, 2010 at 6:21 pm | Permalink

    Very good and important article that gets the correct message across despite the few flaws that some people have pointed out.

    Visit the website in my name, it was started by Tom Metzger who is the most truthful and knowledgeable White activist. Not to mention it’s probably the most or second most extreme racist pro-White website online.

  3. LEW
    Posted December 21, 2010 at 10:21 pm | Permalink

    This article is good, and the author clearly has good intentions. Nevertheless, I am in agreement with Evan on the narrow point concerning the author’s unqualified recommendation of marriage.

    If you are a young unmarried man reading these comments, let me be as clear and direct as I can: whatever you do, DO NOT sign a marriage license.

    In today’s legal and social climate, you will be potentially signing away your mopney, time with your children, and most importantly your dignity. This society is every bit as anti-male as it is anti-White.

    The Feminist/Marxist legal machine will chew you up and spit you out should divorce occur.

    I know; my ex-wife walked with half my property and money.

    Since then I have remarried to a wonderful, traditional woman, and we have two kids together. I was about to give up on ever getting married again when we met. Such women are out there, but increasingly rare according to my unmarried male friends. If you find one, I say become companions and build a life, but skip the marriage license.

  4. Jim West
    Posted December 21, 2010 at 9:15 am | Permalink

    I would also add to the above…

    1. Get rid of your cable. I think it is OK to limit viewing to chosen netflix movies but you have to be careful here as well. Most modern cinema , even G rated cinema is not appropriate for White children. For example, I found “Toy Story” pretty appalling when previewing it for my children. This movie includes murder plots (yeah yeah, I know Snow White did too but still), sadism, promiscuity among other things.

    The whorish blond “Southern Belle” character is particularly corrupting and degenerate. Obviously a Jewish inspired character creation. Also, plots of murder (even mistakenly) and surreal nighmarish visions in the sadistic kid next doors home. If you have seen it you may know what I am talking about. I would never expose my kids to this movie.

    2. Try to avoid video games. Speaking from experience. I wasted much time playing these things. And the technology is moving so fast you look back on what you spent so much time playing and say “I spent weeks and weeks playing this technologically primitive game?” Real life is ALWAYS superior.

  5. Anonymous
    Posted December 20, 2010 at 10:54 pm | Permalink

    Mr. Donovan provides invaluable advice. Unfortunately, I admittedly learned some of his lessons the hard way. Currently in my mid-40’s, I am remarried to a beautiful woman, who would be considered a great catch by any man. She has brought me much happiness in a second marriage. My first wife, however, was the mother of my children, and she still has those children under her thumb and total control for 45+ weeks per year. Admittedly, there is a huge gap in my life and in my happiness. It is the absence of my children in my daily life; a tearing away of a part of my soul, a part that will never return to make me whole, as a man, ever again. Alas! I would be a more complete man today if I had been willing to put up with a lesser woman or if I had made a better choice of the mate with which to procreate. Never underestimate the value of a child in your life! They truly are a gift.

  6. Michael Bell
    Posted December 20, 2010 at 6:09 pm | Permalink

    “Also, in terms of substance, their traditions, such as Taoism and Confucianism, seem vastly superior to ours, particularly in their Semeticized form [to say nothing of the crude cults of the negro]…”

    I know this is a bit off topic, but what are the “Semeticized” (sic?) forms of Taoism and Confucianism? I don’t recall any fusion of either Far Eastern faith with anything Semitic whatsoever. Please clarify.

    • Greg Johnson
      Posted December 21, 2010 at 8:37 pm | Permalink

      I think you misread the sentence. The Semiticized traditions are “our” traditions (meaning, I guess, Christianity), “their traditions” (Confucianism, Taoism, etc.).

      • Michael Bell
        Posted December 22, 2010 at 12:08 pm | Permalink

        Ahh…I misread the use of the word “ours.” My mistake.

  7. LEW
    Posted December 20, 2010 at 2:00 pm | Permalink

    James O’Meara:

    But I have gradually come almost to the conclusion that on a variety of fronts, the Asians are the superior race, and any infusion of their blood is to be welcomed —

    This statement appears to be a call for White/Asian miscegenation.

    Am I misreading you?

  8. Adam Gogarty
    Posted December 20, 2010 at 12:28 pm | Permalink

    This is a great read, a lot of truth here. Comments: quit fighting you guys, there are more productive ways to get your point accross, also we are suppose to unite not fight. I emplore all of you to marry white, however make sure she is a decent person. There are a lot of white women out there that are really lost. Beware.
    I say hire white as well, sure most whotes want a decent wage, however you get so much more from white ppl.
    The pro’s are worth it, rather then having someone work for you that secretly wants to kill you and sabotage your business. As for Jews watch out, they have been kicked out of every country in the world for a reason. They divide, corrupt, rob steal and pilliage the values of every place they end up. Be wary of those whom would have you compromise your beleifs and change your way of life to suit other cultures, races. Specially when no one is asking the other race to make any sacrafices or changes of their own.

  9. Joe
    Posted December 20, 2010 at 7:06 am | Permalink

    I loved this piece… perhaps because I’m living it right now. I’m 45 years old and have a beautiful soul-mate for a wife and 2 of the most precious children in the world (ages 3 & 1). I know the pain of loneliness. I was single until age 36 and at that time of my life, prayed every night for what I have now. And the author is right… there is NOTHING like coming home from a hard day’s work to those happy little souls rushing into your arms.

    Now I pray for my married friends that they’ll too have kids. I know they consider them a burden to their selfish lifestyles and there’s no polite way to preach to them of their folly.

    There is no greater purpose in this life for ANY of us than to have children and pass on whatever wisdom we’ve gleaned from our existence so that they can climb a little higher toward our race’s potential heights.

    • Stronza
      Posted December 21, 2010 at 12:51 pm | Permalink

      My mum would go apoplectic over (married) people who didn’t have children. She thought they were crazy-selfish, a crime against nature and morality. Mind you, she used to talk like this when us kids were small and not too much trouble; after we got older she undoubtedly reversed her opinions. At least, I didn’t hear any more of her sneering rages over “selfish” folk.

  10. anonymous
    Posted December 19, 2010 at 8:09 pm | Permalink

    Excellent advice. The writer points out that female fertility drops with age. It’s less well known that this is also true of males. The motility of sperm (swimming ability) drops after age 25, and the quantity of sperm peaks in the early 30’s. I didn’t marry until my mid-thirties, and wonder if I might have been able to father a child had I married earlier.

    Also my wife is Asian. It is hard to determine whether differences are racial, cultural, or just due to the individual and there upbringing, but I think our racial differences are partly the reason she doesn’t get along with my family. She can’t handle open communication or disagreement that might occur. On the whole I get along well with Asians, including her family, and they probably have a slightly higher average intelligence than Whites. Still I hope young whites will marry whites. We are concerned with biodiversity of rain forest plants and animals, and I think rightly so. Then we ought to value our own biodiversity even more highly.

  11. Evan
    Posted December 19, 2010 at 5:48 pm | Permalink

    Just to draw an analogy and emphasize, “get married” is as helpful a remark in relation to those issues as open borders reassurances are in relation to immigration issues.

  12. Evan
    Posted December 19, 2010 at 5:45 pm | Permalink

    Get married? That’s your first piece of advice? “Marriage can be miserable,” is your caveat?

    This site is the most blessed outlet I’ve run across, perhaps ever, and it is high in my esteem. I opened my pathetically tiny checking account yesterday and issued a recurring donation. Did someone decide to run a piece designed to make me doubt that people here are paying attention and have a grip?

    Get married to whom, under what circumstances and conditions? What does one look for, in prospects and marital connections, and how can one be sure of reliability, truth, loyalty? How does one know he’s entered a good marriage, likely to last and be fruitful and happy? What are the risks? What skill set, what expectations, what attitude must one have to enter the anarchy of the dating market and escape happy, with something worth the effort, as this author blithely hopes should happen?

    The issue of our sexual and reproductive demoralization and soulless abandon sends one to the core or our difficulties. It needs a problem that needs special quality of attention, serious, urgent, sustained. The forum in which that question is grasped and dealt with cannot be opened to people who are to any degree impressed and satisfied with what’s on offer in this piece. I’ll put it this way: the sexual problem is the most difficult, dangerous analytical and psychological animal we face internally, and it cannot be survived and coaxed back into the back with much hokum. What you can purchase with this flat, simple, “get married” mentality is worse than nothing, and it will bring real flesh-in-blood white men and women nothing.

    This outlet is solid on racial realism. This piece should be taken down immediately, for the sake of whites and their future, and nothing should be printed on this matter except from someone with a similarly realistic grip on the our people’s sexual and romantic disarray. Stick to D.H. Lawrence.

    • Mimir's Well
      Posted December 19, 2010 at 8:35 pm | Permalink

      Hmmm…seems you must be having problems in the marriage department. Getting married is not all that difficult. You must be wookin pa nub in ah da wong paces! Staying married, now that takes some work (mostly in the “seems all I do is compromise” department)! But that’s what it takes. Quit whining and get out there. Kind of a shame to end millions of years of evolution.

      • Evan
        Posted December 20, 2010 at 7:15 am | Permalink

        Wake up and get serious. I am having no personal problems in the marriage department. You don’t have a clue what is at stake.

        • Greg Johnson
          Posted December 20, 2010 at 10:54 am | Permalink

          Evan,

          Please write an article explaining your take on the situation.

          Greg Johnson
          Editor

          • Evan
            Posted December 20, 2010 at 11:30 am | Permalink

            Will do. In the meantime . . .

            Whites forming connections with meaning beyond themselves, building families and having children–this is a situation we want to see restored. The odd couple may succeed in forming a connection that reflects this goal, but the larger group has no hope, as long as present social, political, and institutional obstacles remain in place. Directing the individual to simply get married will not make those disappear, so they need their own attention and response. In fact, simply soliciting faith in marriage will mostly be counterproductive, because its legal and social meaning as been fundamentally manipulated and altered. On current public understandings marriages are not meant to be fruitful or happy in the way the author here intends, and they certainly will not contribute to any sort of racial renewal. They are reconstructed to serve egotistical ends, and our surroundings reinforce that. If you want marriage on the model presented here you’ll have to provide all your own bricks and mortar, because you’ll enjoy little outside traditional support and face much outside threat, resentment, and attack.

            Moreover, the setting in which “courtship” now occurs according to rules that are anarchic and gynarchic. In particular, the man who expects to see his desire for a quality marriage and family reflected in the dating marketplace will suffer acute disappointment, quickly and continuously.

            Instructing the individual simply to get married is like telling someone in an urban war zone to walk down the street to the market to get some milk. Yes, agreed, we want the milk. But for the individual to safely get it he’ll need guerilla awareness. And for the setting to change so that it’s safe for people generally, a more organized collective challenge must be made.

          • Mimir's Well
            Posted December 20, 2010 at 12:55 pm | Permalink

            “Moreover, the setting in which “courtship” now occurs according to rules that are anarchic and gynarchic. In particular, the man who expects to see his desire for a quality marriage and family reflected in the dating marketplace will suffer acute disappointment, quickly and continuously.”

            Come again? Like I said, you must be dating the wrong women.

          • Evan
            Posted December 20, 2010 at 6:04 pm | Permalink

            You must be located on a different planet, or in the West prior to the 1950s.

          • Mimir's Well
            Posted December 20, 2010 at 7:05 pm | Permalink

            Nope! You just need to seperate yourself from what doesn’t work. Takes some courage; requires moving out of your comfort zone (and possibly zip code).

          • Johon
            Posted December 21, 2010 at 2:30 am | Permalink

            Stop blaming women or society for your deficiencies. I picked up my blonde, beautiful, university-educated girlfriend drunk at a party, and slept with her a few hours later. It might not be ideal or whatever, but its how it goes. And what is important is that she’s loyal, loving, caring and wants lots of children, rather sooner then later.

            The modern world is the modern world, learn to live with it. And to be honest: while culture and the forms of civilized courtship might have degenerated, human nature has not. Women still essentially wants the same thing in men that they always wanted: strong. confident, independent and good-looking men, yet willing and able to give them and their children a secure future. Try to live up to that ( rather then fantasizing about a never-existing past when the awkward internet-traditionalist got all the poontash) and things will be fine.

            Though, I might add, that this is written from a European perspective where we – quite frankly – don’t have to put up with a dating market crowded with fat women (and men).

          • Andrew
            Posted December 21, 2010 at 12:52 pm | Permalink

            Evan, I definitely get your point.

            Many formidable forces work against us, such as the blatant misandry of strident femininism which now pervades our legal system, the usurpation of parental rights by coercive child protective agencies, affirmative action in the work place, economic and political marginalization of White men, taxes that are excessive to begin with and impose penalties on married couples, romanticization of gay lifestyles and non-White cultures, the chaos of the dating scene – to name a few that come immediately to mind.

            As an humble suggestion, let me say that I personally found the writings and columns of a fellow named Thomas Hodges to be most helpful. He is a psychologist by education, salesman by experience, and private researcher, whose pen name is Love Doctor. On his website and in his books he outlines a slow, steady, methodical approach – requiring a little discipline, courage, patience, and self-restraint – toward meeting, selecting, dating, and evaluating women. He calls it “The System.” His first book ain’t cheap, IIRC, but I considered it worth my money.

            As a retired married guy, may I also suggest that, if or when you decide to form a lasting, loving partnership with a woman, you should not – I repeat – should not involve the state in your relationship. This should be a sacred covenant between you and your partner only (and God, if you are so inclined).

            Nowadays the risks of making the state a third party to the marriage contract, with its certain superior legal powers, are grave, far outweighing any benefits for you as a potential husband, father, and head of household. Given our troubled and tyrannical times, I can think of no moral or ethical justification for requesting the government’s permission or license for you to mate.

            This is not to say that you and your chosen one should necessarily forgo a private traditional celebration of your union before your family and fellows, as in a Christian church or a Nordic pagan ceremony. Just keep it your own business. And, if at all possible, do not send your kids to government schools.

            My 2 bits. Regards.

          • Evan
            Posted December 21, 2010 at 7:06 pm | Permalink

            Nope! You just need to seperate yourself from what doesn’t work. Takes some courage; requires moving out of your comfort zone (and possibly zip code).

            Separating oneself from what doesn’t work is my point. You’re talking past me.

            Stop blaming women or society for your deficiencies.

            Red herring. I’m not blaming women or society. That you assume a personal deficiency reveals your bias. With regard to attracting women I don’t have one.

            I picked up my blonde, beautiful, university-educated girlfriend drunk at a party, and slept with her a few hours later. It might not be ideal or whatever, but its how it goes.

            You and I may succeed in this, but what about the large swatch of frustrated men? And is everyone who beds a woman the same night he meets her able to translate that into a lasting, child-producing connection?

            And what is important is that she’s loyal, loving, caring and wants lots of children, rather sooner then later.

            Great for you. We’re not talking about you, or individuals. We’re addressing the fate of a group, and your success is not reflective of the group situation.

            The modern world is the modern world, learn to live with it.

            That’s what I’m advocating.

            I appreciate Andrew’s remarks, but otherwise commenters decline to observe the point. Yes, we want a habit of marriage and reproduction for our group. The setting, however, and the understanding of marriage itself is shifted, and–let’s phrase so as to be gentle on the naysayers–things are less friendly and secure for the man with traditional expectations.

            Here are some snapshots of marriage’s current condition:

            http://www.momlogic.com/2010/05/update_31427_women_signed_up_for_ashley_madison_the_day_after_mothers_day.php

            http://www.nytimes.com/2009/11/22/magazine/22Paternity-t.html?_r=3&pagewanted=1&hp

            http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2009/05/07/AR2009050704530.html

            http://roissy.wordpress.com/2008/06/10/how-to-save-marriage/

            http://dontmarry.wordpress.com/2009/03/24/articles-by-f-roger-devlin/

            What’s that? Don’t get in marriages that look like this, you say? Oh, okay! But the point is that, just as people are forcefully propagandized to be distracted from racial reality, so with marriage reality. It takes a particular understanding to avoid disaster marriages, which is what many (most?) marriages are at a high risk of becoming these days.

            So back to the original point: reality demands some better advice than, “get married,” and better qualification and caveat than, “it’s hard sometimes.”

          • Greg Johnson
            Posted December 21, 2010 at 8:48 pm | Permalink

            When white men talk about the destructiveness of affirmative action on their prospects and incomes, it is a form of macho status competition to pretend that one is unaffected by it, and to proclaim that one is “not afraid of a little competition.” Some whites will never let racial solidarity interfere with their desire to one-up fellow whites in status competition.

            The same thing is at work in discussions of the destructiveness of feminism and anti-male legal bias on the ability of young white men to find good wifes and keep them. Some white men will never let male solidarity get in the way of scoring points in status competition by pretending that the insanity of the modern sexual economy does not affect them and that only losers, betas, geeks, etc. have anything to complain about. A quick glance at Evan’s Facebook profile reveals that none of those descriptions apply.

            I am not accusing anyone on this thread of making such cheap shots. I simply wish to identify this phenomenon so that posters avoid mistakenly giving that impression.

  13. Mimir's Well
    Posted December 19, 2010 at 1:32 pm | Permalink

    Good observations. More men and women need to adhere to these “basics.” These are really no-brainer concepts. As for church, I once read a saying that went something like this, “When I was a young man I thought that a belief in God was all I needed and church (organized religeon) was not necessary. Now that I’m a bit older I believe it’s just the opposite.” A sense of community, if not for yourself, your children, goes a long, long way in keeping them grounded in most of the values we profess to adhere to. Yes, I know there are parts of organized religeon that are BS, but overall it has been good for my family.

  14. Posted December 19, 2010 at 7:05 am | Permalink

    Overall good stuff. Two comments:

    Cities, and Jews and Jobs: Being born, growing up and living in Detroit taught me all I needed to know about the negro; I haven’t found anything surprising in Detroit since, or elsewhere [e.g., Charlie Rangel’s massive corruption and corresponding self-pity and neighborhood hero status].

    However, I was still pretty pro-Jew, even after moving to NYC, where, between the nature of my jobs and sheer odds, I have always worked for Jews. After becoming more racially aware via K MacD. and company, and reflecting on my career during my current extended bout of unemployment, I noticed this for the first time, and further have concluded, in line with your views on ‘work with your own,’ “Never again.”

    And your comments certainly applied to the Hispanics and negroes who made up at least half to 2/3 of my co-“workers”.

    However, my observations are that even with Whites at 40-50 % in the city, not counting Jews, it is impossible to find a job which is not infested with non-Whites and usually run by a Jew at the top. [Given that Jews make up only 6% of the NYC population, that’s remarkable, and explains why people think the whole town is Jewish]. Not, of course, because the non-Whites are better workers, but because they are the default hire, to prevent accusations of ray-sism. The Jewish boss looks out on his ‘multi-culti’ workforce and smiles, content that he is free from lawsuits [old school] or contributing to racial harmony and progress [college educated]. As for Whitey, not so much.

    Also, on marrying White. Well, yes. But I have gradually come almost to the conclusion that on a variety of fronts, the Asians are the superior race, and any infusion of their blood is to be welcomed — from our point of view, of course; and it’s their racial solidarity itself that we need to develop for our part.

    Also, in terms of substance, their traditions, such as Taoism and Confucianism, seem vastly superior to ours, particularly in their Semeticized form [to say nothing of the crude cults of the negro], and their scientific, technological and economic achievements suggest that rather than asking, like so many neocons, “How did Christian Europe surpass the stagnant East” we would do better to welcome our new Asian overlords and someday ask “How human progress take a side trip through Christian Europe and then return to its natural course in the East?”

    • Jim West
      Posted December 19, 2010 at 2:50 pm | Permalink

      James O’Meara said:
      “Also, on marrying White. Well, yes. But I have gradually come almost to the conclusion that on a variety of fronts, the Asians are the superior race, and any infusion of their blood is to be welcomed — from our point of view, of course; and it’s their racial solidarity itself that we need to develop for our part. ”

      This is kind of shocking. I implore you, please rethink this. The end result of this thinking is a world without Whites. Is this what you want? Say what you want about the Asian races, and I personally do respect them (Northern Orient more than Southern) but they are not us. The best word I can use to describe them is “cold”. I don’t get this same feeling when dealing with Whites.

      One small example. We have some Asians living in our neighborhood. You know, they hardly ever return a wave and they can be looking right at me when I attempt this neighborly gesture. Whites OTOH almost always do. I think this illustrates in a nutshell a fundamental difference, the coldness of the Oriental vs. the warmth and friendliness of Whites generally.

    • Incitatus
      Posted December 20, 2010 at 4:08 pm | Permalink

      “But I have gradually come almost to the conclusion that on a variety of fronts, the Asians are the superior race,..”

      If they are “the superior race”, how come they have to migrate by the millions to White countries to make a decent and civilized living?

  15. Visionsofglory14
    Posted December 19, 2010 at 7:01 am | Permalink

    I recall this article having a big impact on my thinking when I first read it one year ago. The idea is definitely taught to whites that marriage is a boring thing that a rightminded person would want to get involved in after they slowed down and were well into 30’s. It’s all part of ‘enjoying your single life’ while you can but it’s really about killing off the white race by getting us to choose our own demise.

  16. ilie
    Posted December 19, 2010 at 1:36 am | Permalink

    you’re an idiot!

    • Greg Johnson
      Posted December 19, 2010 at 8:32 am | Permalink

      Says some one who offers no reasons and doesn’t know or care about capitalization. Somebody’s an idiot.

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